Answered by: Moulana Mohammed Kamran Abid
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah
I’m am really upset I have been doing istekhara, the person I want to marry has consulted 2 mufti and done istekhara himself.we are still confused. we’ve known each other for 4 years, we were in college together. We really want to get married with the permission of parents. neither does his mother agree to let him marry me and in istekhara he saw a big black hole and he is falling and falling. when I did istekhara I didn’t see any dream at all. My mother has given me time till August if he brings his parents for rishta. but we are facing so many problems. and we don’t want to give up. we want Allah’s Raza mandi with our decision
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم
In the name of ALLAH the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
It is important for us to understand the misconceptions about Istikhara. Istikhara means to seek guidance for a matter from Allah. None of the narrations about Istikhara mentions anything about dreams nor is there any mention of performing Istikhara before sleeping. However, it was the preference of some saints that Istikhara should be before sleeping and that the dreams can be connected to the Istikhara. Therefore, there is nothing special about a dream seen after making Istikhara. It is like any other dream. (Istikharah in the light of the Sunnah, pg. 21)
The prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Dreams are of three types: a dream from Allah, a dream which causes distress and which comes from the Shaytaan, and a dream which comes from what a person thinks about when he is awake, and he sees it when he is asleep. (al-Bukhari, 6499; Muslim, 4200). It is possible that the dream that he saw was from Shaytaan or from himself. Continue making Istikharah until your heart inclines towards
Shaykh Ashraf Ali Thanwi says, “Istikharah is beneficial for the person who maintains an open-mind (in the matter being considered)… otherwise, one’s pre-conceived choice dominates the heart. This person now considers (after Istikharah) his thoughts and any dream to justify this previous choice.” (Ashraf’s Blessings of Marriage, pg. 66)
Whoever has recited the dua of istikhara has indeed placed his/her trust in Allah. Allah says “He who places his trust in Allah, Allah is sufficient for him.” (Surah Talaq, ayah 3)Pray your daily prayers and istikhara salaah with the dua and inshallah Allah will make your heart inclined to a decision that will be good for you.
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Only Allah knows best.
Written by Moulana Mohammed Kamran Abid
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham