I m a lady of 32 years, i couldn’t get marry yet. in fact my parents never care about it.Just after i completed my engineering there were some purposal sfor me for what my mother refuse ans said that she is engaged to her cousin with asking my opinion. afterward I refused to get marry my that cousin as I dont like him( does a girl has equal rights to refuse to get marry a guy she doesn’t like because he is not equally educated). After that only by luck i was going to get marry twice with some guys but later it breaks up because of some unpleasent reasons. Even now my parents r still waiting for some miracle from Allah and not doing any thing for me to ask any one to get some purposal. By grach of Allah i m well educated and good looking but with time my beauty is going away. I m muslim so I dont persue for any guy or even get frank with any male at work place, i m shy and so reserved girl and sometimes so rude to males. I m so angry for my parents as they didn’t feemy feelings and saying allah will arrange by himself u dont worry. Plz tell me what to do. There is some people arround us and we want them to purpose me throught proper chanell i mean via my parents but how this can come as I never try to speak to them or even show them my prasence and even I dont want to this as it is sin. Plz advice me and also tell me some dua. Also prevously I didn’t get reply from u for my questions since more that a month.
Do not despair in the Mercy of Allah Ta’ala.
Consider the following three steps for remedy.
1. Make dua (if possible wake up for Tahajjud make tauba with genuine repentance and then make dua.) for someone deeni compatible.
2. Make the required adjustments in life.
3. Resign the will to Allah Ta’ala.
As in making required adjustments, ponder over your life attitudes / unpleasant situations that affected your life. If you had to soften up then change your attitude towards gentleness, kindness and qualities of womanhood, pushing aside the power of career and authority. How would the situation now fair. What word went around about you? Remember ,consider the unpleansantness in a positive light, address it and if positive change is required don’t hesitate change and fly.
In the interim yes beauty fades but beauty of the heart and love and connection to Our Beloved Allah Ta’ala will increase and rest assured Allah Ta’ala and HIS love will never let us down.
So start focussing on building a true love and connection with your Beloved Creator. Start with obedience to Allah Ta’ala. Help serve HIS Creation for Allah Ta’ala’s pleasure. This new focus in life will subside anger and give you a new meaning to life. Forgive your parents and love them and show them kindness because your Beloved orders you to, then see the sweetness and happiness flow in your life. Remember if you make the effort and duas and if you still do not marry do not despair Khair perchance Allah Ta’ala has better in store for you. Perhaps you may serve deen or you may in a few years find a better appropriate partner.
A dua recommended by some elders after every fard salaah for a pious partner ” Rabbana Hub lanaa min Azawaajina wa Zurriyyatina Kurrata Aayunin..”
May Allah Ta’ala bless you with a pious partner and pious children.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
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CHECKED & APPROVED: Mufti Ebrahim Desai