Salam Mufti bro.I need ur advice plz! A few months ago, a 19 yr old guy added me n wanted to chat with me on internet! I don’t chat with strangers, but he forced me, well we were very good bro n sis..but last week, he said that he is in love with me and he wants to marry me…even though I never had ne kind of illicit feelings which cud encourage him for such decision.i explained him all the conditions about Islam n our family, but he is not ready to understand ! he said that he will wait for me forever!!I m very sad b?coz I don’t want to hurt neone.is it haraam to fall in love n find a spouse on internet?..plz help me soon!! i m 18 yrs old
Marriage is a major decision in one’s life. Do not make a rash decision. He
may claim he is in love but it could be just infatuation as is so often the
case with teenagers.
It is up to you to make a decision to marry. Nobody can force you. Don’t
bother about hurting his feelings as he has no rights whatsoever over you.
If you are genuinely interested, ask him to go through the acceptable
channels of proposals, etc. through your family. Also, avid further contact
with him since – as you acknowledge – it is a Haraam relationship.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Muhammad Kadwa
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