Salaam Jokingly calling your wife as someone else’s wife or saying that someone else’s house is her in law’s place, will this constitute divorce
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
If one attributes his wife to be someone else’s wife or attributes someone else’s house as her in laws, that does not constitute a divorce. [1]
However, it constitutes a lie, which incurs the wrath and anger of Allah. It is also against shame to refer one’s wife to be someone else’s wife.
Furthermore, such a statement causes pain to the wife. The husband should make taubah and istighfaar for speaking lies and he should seek forgiveness from his wife for the pain caused to her.
What if she makes similar hurtful statements against him? How will he react? Does she expect him to be patient and tolerant with such an intensive conduct? How then does he expect his wife to display patience for such hurtful remarks?
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Muhammad I.V Patel
Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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[1] بدائع الصنائع في ترتيب الشرائع (3/ 106)
وَلَا خِلَافَ أَنَّهُ لَا يَقَعُ الطَّلَاقُ بِشَيْءٍ مِنْ أَلْفَاظِ الْكِنَايَةِ إلَّا بِالنِّيَّةِ فَإِنْ كَانَ قَدْ نَوَى الطَّلَاقَ يَقَعُ فِيمَا بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى، وَإِنْ كَانَ لَمْ يَنْوِ لَا يَقَعُ فِيمَا بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى، وَإِنْ ذَكَرَ شَيْئًا مِنْ ذَلِكَ ثُمَّ قَالَ: مَا أَرَدْتُ بِهِ الطَّلَاقَ يُدَيَّنُ فِيمَا بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى؛ لِأَنَّ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى يَعْلَمُ سِرَّهُ وَنَجَوَاهُ
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