I got nikad a month back,e/thing happened within a week’s time,though i got a fair chance to meet the guy,i somehow had become emotionless,and leaving e/thing to ALLAH whom i am a staunch believer,and to my parents said yes.it was after the nikah,that i made myself,and my lovely,loving parents misreable,b/c somehow i still cant accept him,i think i am more focused on his looks,as he is an average looking guy,or what is it idont know.in about 4 month’s time is my rukhsati,and the thought scares me.i am to some extent pretty religious,have performed HAJJ,recently,and i keep telliny myself that nothing bad can ever happen b/c ALLAH loves HIS creations alot.sorry for such a long story,IMAM SAHAB.
The union through Nikaah is sacred and both spouses are duty bound by
Shariah to honor this sacred bond by fulfilling each others rights. The
reason for not being able to accept your husband due to his looks,
especially after having seen him before marriage is not appropriate. You
should focus your mind on the essence of the union through Nikaah. It is a
long journey of life that has to be shared by both of you. If your husband
is pious and has a good character, and will be able to care for you
(especially having been chosen by your parents) then you can be optimistic
of a successful marriage. Many pretty women have handsome husbands of ill
character, who then make their wives’ life a hell on earth. You do not know
what lies ahead of you should you decide not to continue with this sacred
bond. We advise you to place your trust in Allah Ta’ala and respect the
sacred bond of Nikaah.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Muft