Q: I want to ask you a very important matter. My husband had a girlfriend before I married him. For about nearly 8 months he was serious with her but accidentally she got pregnant. He said to her about termination but she lied and said yes I did (she’s in a different country and she’s a proper outgoing christian girl (English girl). When she was 3 months pregnant then my husband left that country (he just went for business and came back to U.K.). After he got back we married and then after 6 years he found out on her Facebook that she was saying that she got a girl from you. Now dilemma is that I am not happy I got married with him from last 12 years mashallah and got alhmdulillah 3 beautiful kids. I am really in a bad condition. We started to fight and argue. He wants that girl which is not on our religioun. She is now 11 years old. Then I told him that we got respect in people and we dont want to let anybody know and I’ll adopt her as my child and inshaallah I’ll teach her knowledge of Islam and put her in darululum. He said ok and we contacted that women and she said no she dont want her to be a Muslim and she’s not interesting in Islam but please see her. I told my husband that I wont let you do that. If she don’t want to accept Islam, do the dna test before you contact her. Now I really don’t know what to do because I am worried that if he starts to see her then he’ll be in contact with her mother. And if he contacts that girl then the problem is that she don’t want to accept Islam and it will affect my kids. Mashallah they going to Islamic school.
A: Since she is born out of wedlock, she is not regarded as his daughter and hence she is not his responsibility.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)