Q: In your opinion, by which means can a girl (soon 20 years old) show to her father her ability to get married, her being responsible?
A: The father should realise that his daughter is of age and he should make the attempts to settle her as soon as possible. Unfortunately, if this is not the case of the father, then she should in some way get this message conveyed to the father.
عن أبي هريرة قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم إذا خطب إليكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد عريض (جامع الترمذي رقم 1084)
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)