Question:
I want an Islamic solution, which can make me live a depression-free life. I have been spending very good life with my wife and two kids for the last 6 years. Suddenly one day thinking of “divorce concept” came to my mind. I start feeling that if I say “Three words of divorce”, its going to make trouble for me and my family. Fear started in my heart and I have been continuously thinking on this aspect. It caused anxiety on my mind and I could not perform normal operation of life.
After few days anxiety has been converted into depression. In the state of depression, I was feeling I should not live any more life. I have also undergone treatment from a psychologist for a period of six months. Then I got better. Now all this depression started from pre-occupied fear of saying three words of “divorce”. Now I am not in that depression but this concept still strikes to my mind that if I say word of divorce and it’s going to separate my wife and kids from me. I did not utter this word from my tongue and I do not want to but fear is always there on my heart. Is there any alternate way for patient like me for this divorce like following:
Fatwa that says:
1. This divorce will not occur by saying words of divorce in my case.
2. Divorce can only occur when I write on a court paper in presence of two witnesses.
3. It can only occur when I write on a plain paper
4. By any other way in which saying word of divorce will not applicable on me.
Please treat this as a special case. By thinking on this issue every minute of my life made my life worst
and its hard for me to do normal operations of worldly and religious things.
Jazakallah
Answer:
In order for Talaaq to take place it is essential for the husband to utter the words of Talaaq or write it down with the intention of Talaaq. Talaaq will not take place by merely pondering over the concept of Talaaq or by pronouncing Talaaq in one’s mind.
In the light of your explanation Talaaq has not taken place. You should try your utmost best not to think over the matter and continue living a good life with your family. With regards to your problem it is most appropriate that you forward your case to a well versed Mufti in your area with whom you can have a verbal consultation and thereafter act upon the advices imparted by him. Apart from this, you should recite LAA HUALA WALA QUWWATA ILLA BILLAH 500 times daily and YAA QAWIYYU often and seek psychological help.
And Allah Ta’ala knows best
Mufti Muhammad Ashraf
Darul Iftaa
Jameah Mahmoodiyah
Springs
14 September 2004
28 Rajab 1425