As Salaam Alaikum.
I have a question related to an acute situation in my marriage. My husband and our previous land lord were arguing regarding a fine that he gave us of $1500 after we had left his house that we had rented. We did not have this money and my husband had let him know that he would pay it. When they were via text arguing with each other and saying that they would each get a lawyer after our landlord said that my husband was a liar, I texted to our landlord that we did not have the money. After that our land lord asked for payments of $500 and I let him know that we can’t do that but that we can pay $250 every 2 weeks. The lease for the house was in my name for different circumstances but my husband was responsible for letting the landlord know. However, he did not let him know and since he waited the landlord was upset and accusing my husband of being untruthful. Since I send those two text messages, my husband came home very angry and threatened to divorce me. He said ‘I am close to divorcing you and then has not spoken to me for 1.5 days and is sleeping in a separate room.’ I feel very frustrated because I was trying to prevent further arguing between them and also trying to keep good relations and now I have my husband causing strife in our house. Can you please help me in this situation?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Sister in Islam,
We make Dua that Allah Ta’ala unite your hearts and put love and compassion between both of you, Ameen. It appears that your husband was upset as the landlord did not know the lease was on your name. You informed the landlord of this, which led him to further distrust your husband. Whilst your noble intention to resolve the issue is appreciated, it would have been prudent for you to have discussed the issue with your husband before approaching the landlord, to avoid any further problem. You should humble yourself before your husband and request him to excuse you and that you learnt a lesson to consult him in similar issues in future.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Faizal Dhada
Student, Darul Iftaa
UK
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.