In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Sister in Islam, we sympathize with your situation. However, you should never feel worthless. Never be despondent from the decree of Allah.
Rasulullah (صلي الله عليه وسلم) said, “How amazing is the affairs of a believer, for there is good in every affair of his/her. This is not the case with anyone except for a believer. Verily, if s/he has an occasion to feel delight, s/he thanks (Allah), thus there is a good for him/her in it (Allah increases his/her bounties). And if s/he is afflicted with difficulties, s/he endures patiently and there is a good for him/her in it (Allah rewards him/her for being patient).”[1]
Be patient and put your faith in Allah. Beseech the Almighty for a way out of your problems. Allah, the Merciful and Wise, has a plan for us all. Perhaps Allah is preserving you for a more suitable spouse.
We advise to seek council from the elders in your family and they can search for a spouse according to the situation. You may also read the following duas;
إِنِّي لِمَا أَنْزَلْتَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيرٌ
Transliteration: “Inni lima anzalata ilayya min khairin faqeer”
Translation: Surely I stand in need of whatever good You may send down to me.
Musa (عليه السلام) read this dua at the time of difficulty and was relieved.
اللهُمَّ آتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً، وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ
Transliteration: Allahuma aatina fid dunya hasanah wa fil aakhirati hasanah wa qina adhaaban naar
Translation: “Oh Allah! Grant us goodness in this world and goodness in the Hereafter and protect us from the punishment of the Hellfire”[2]
May Allah grant you a suitable marriage partner. Ameen.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Saad Haque
Student Darul Iftaa
New Jersey, USA
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Husain Kadodia.
[1] صحيح مسلم ٢٩٩٩
حَدَّثَنَا هَدَّابُ بْنُ خَالِدٍ الْأَزْدِيُّ، وَشَيْبَانُ بْنُ فَرُّوخَ، جَمِيعًا عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ – وَاللَّفْظُ لِشَيْبَانَ – حَدَّثَنَا سُلَيْمَانُ، حَدَّثَنَا ثَابِتٌ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ أَبِي لَيْلَى، عَنْ صُهَيْبٍ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «عَجَبًا لِأَمْرِ الْمُؤْمِنِ، إِنَّ أَمْرَهُ كُلَّهُ خَيْرٌ، وَلَيْسَ ذَاكَ لِأَحَدٍ إِلَّا لِلْمُؤْمِنِ، إِنْ أَصَابَتْهُ سَرَّاءُ شَكَرَ، فَكَانَ خَيْرًا لَهُ، وَإِنْ أَصَابَتْهُ ضَرَّاءُ، صَبَرَ فَكَانَ خَيْرًا لَهُ»
[2] مسلم٢٦٩٠
حَدَّثَنِي زُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ يَعْنِي ابْنَ عُلَيَّةَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ وَهُوَ ابْنُ صُهَيْبٍ، قَالَ: سَأَلَ قَتَادَةُ أَنَسًا أَيُّ دَعْوَةٍ كَانَ يَدْعُو بِهَا النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَكْثَرَ، قَالَ: كَانَ أَكْثَرُ دَعْوَةٍ يَدْعُو بِهَا يَقُولُ: «اللهُمَّ آتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً، وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ» قَالَ: وَكَانَ أَنَسٌ إِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَدْعُوَ بِدَعْوَةٍ دَعَا بِهَا، فَإِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَدْعُوَ بِدُعَاءٍ دَعَا بِهَا فِيهِ