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Being attracted to one’s wife’s sister

Q: I have a question that I am married and I like my wifeโ€™s sister very much. What should I do?

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A: Your wifeโ€™s sister is haraam for you as long as your wife is in your nikaah. You should observe strict purdah with her. Do not speak to her or have any contact with her.

And Allah Taโ€™ala (ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุชุนุงู„ู‰) knows best.

ุญูุฑูู‘ู…ูŽุช ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠูƒูู… ุฃูู…ู‘ูŽู‡ู€ูฐุชููƒูู… ูˆูŽุจูŽู†ุงุชููƒูู… ูˆูŽุฃูŽุฎูŽูˆูฐุชููƒูู… ูˆูŽุนูŽู…ู‘ู€ูฐุชููƒูู… ูˆูŽุฎู€ูฐู„ู€ูฐุชููƒูู… ูˆูŽุจูŽู†ุงุชู ุงู„ุฃูŽุฎู ูˆูŽุจูŽู†ุงุชู ุงู„ุฃูุฎุชู ูˆูŽุฃูู…ู‘ูŽู‡ู€ูฐุชููƒูู…ู ุงู„ู‘ู€ูฐุชู‰ ุฃูŽุฑุถูŽุนู†ูŽูƒูู… ูˆูŽุฃูŽุฎูŽูˆูฐุชููƒูู… ู…ูู†ูŽ ุงู„ุฑู‘ูŽุถู€ูฐุนูŽุฉู ูˆูŽุฃูู…ู‘ูŽู‡ู€ูฐุชู ู†ูุณุงุฆููƒูู… ูˆูŽุฑูŽุจู€ูฐุฆูุจููƒูู…ู ุงู„ู‘ู€ูฐุชู‰ ูู‰ ุญูุฌูˆุฑููƒูู… ู…ูู† ู†ูุณุงุฆููƒูู…ู ุงู„ู‘ู€ูฐุชู‰ ุฏูŽุฎูŽู„ุชูู… ุจูู‡ูู†ู‘ูŽ ููŽุฅูู† ู„ูŽู… ุชูŽูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุฏูŽุฎูŽู„ุชูู… ุจูู‡ูู†ู‘ูŽ ููŽู„ุง ุฌูู†ุงุญูŽ ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠูƒูู… ูˆูŽุญูŽู„ู€ูฐุฆูู„ู ุฃูŽุจู†ุงุฆููƒูู…ู ุงู„ู‘ูŽุฐูŠู†ูŽ ู…ูู† ุฃูŽุตู„ู€ูฐุจููƒูู… ูˆูŽุฃูŽู† ุชูŽุฌู…ูŽุนูˆุง ุจูŽูŠู†ูŽ ุงู„ุฃูุฎุชูŽูŠู†ู ุฅูู„ู‘ุง ู…ุง ู‚ูŽุฏ ุณูŽู„ูŽููŽ ุฅูู†ู‘ูŽ ุงู„ู„ู‘ูŽู€ู‡ูŽ ูƒุงู†ูŽ ุบูŽููˆุฑู‹ุง ุฑูŽุญูŠู…ู‹ุงย ๏ดฟูขูฃ๏ดพ ูˆูŽุงู„ู…ูุญุตูŽู†ู€ูฐุชู ู…ูู†ูŽ ุงู„ู†ูู‘ุณุงุกู ุฅูู„ู‘ุง ู…ุง ู…ูŽู„ูŽูƒูŽุช ุฃูŽูŠู…ู€ูฐู†ููƒูู… ูƒูุชู€ูฐุจูŽ ุงู„ู„ู‘ูŽู€ู‡ู ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠูƒูู… ูˆูŽุฃูุญูู„ู‘ูŽ ู„ูŽูƒูู… ู…ุง ูˆูŽุฑุงุกูŽ ุฐูฐู„ููƒูู… ุฃูŽู† ุชูŽุจุชูŽุบูˆุง ุจูุฃูŽู…ูˆูฐู„ููƒูู… ู…ูุญุตูู†ูŠู†ูŽ ุบูŽูŠุฑูŽ ู…ูุณู€ูฐููุญูŠู†ูŽ ููŽู…ูŽุง ุงุณุชูŽู…ุชูŽุนุชูู… ุจูู‡ู ู…ูู†ู‡ูู†ู‘ูŽ ููŽู€ู”ุงุชูˆู‡ูู†ู‘ูŽ ุฃูุฌูˆุฑูŽู‡ูู†ู‘ูŽ ููŽุฑูŠุถูŽุฉู‹ ูˆูŽู„ุง ุฌูู†ุงุญูŽ ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠูƒูู… ููŠู…ุง ุชูŽุฑูฐุถูŽูŠุชูู… ุจูู‡ู ู…ูู† ุจูŽุนุฏู ุงู„ููŽุฑูŠุถูŽุฉู ุฅูู†ู‘ูŽ ุงู„ู„ู‘ูŽู€ู‡ูŽ ูƒุงู†ูŽ ุนูŽู„ูŠู…ู‹ุง ุญูŽูƒูŠู…ู‹ุงย ๏ดฟุงู„ู†ุณุงุก:ูขูค๏ดพ

ุนู† ุงุจู† ุนู…ุฑ ู‚ุงู„ : ุฎุทุจู†ุง ุนู…ุฑ ุจุงู„ุฌุงุจูŠุฉ ูู‚ุงู„ ูŠุง ุฃูŠู‡ุง ุงู„ู†ุงุณ ุฅู†ูŠ ู‚ู…ุช ููŠูƒู… ูƒู…ู‚ุงู… ุฑุณูˆู„ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุตู„ู‰ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุนู„ูŠู‡ ูˆ ุณู„ู… ููŠู†ุง ูู‚ุงู„ ุฃูˆุตูŠูƒู… ุจุฃุตุญุงุจูŠ ุซู… ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠู„ูˆู†ู‡ู… ุซู… ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠู„ูˆู†ู‡ู… ุซู… ูŠูุดูˆุง ุงู„ูƒุฐุจ ุญุชู‰ ูŠุญู„ู ุงู„ุฑุฌู„ ูˆู„ุง ูŠุณุชุญู„ู ูˆูŠุดู‡ุฏ ุงู„ุดุงู‡ุฏ ูˆู„ุง ูŠุณุชุดู‡ุฏ ุฃู„ุง ู„ุง ูŠุฎู„ูˆู† ุฑุฌู„ ุจุงู…ุฑุฃุฉ ุฅู„ุง ูƒุงู† ุซุงู„ุซู‡ู…ุง ุงู„ุดูŠุทุงู† ุนู„ูŠูƒู… ุจุงู„ุฌู…ุงุนุฉ ูˆุฅูŠุงูƒู… ูˆุงู„ูุฑู‚ุฉ ูุฅู† ุงู„ุดูŠุทุงู† ู…ุน ุงู„ูˆุงุญุฏ ูˆู‡ูˆ ู…ู† ุงู„ุงุซู†ูŠู† ุฃุจุนุฏ ู…ู† ุฃุฑุงุฏ ุจุญุจูˆุญุฉ ุงู„ุฌู†ุฉ ููŠู„ุฒู… ุงู„ุฌู…ุงุนุฉ ู…ู† ุณุฑุชู‡ ุญุณู†ุชู‡ ูˆุณุงุกุชู‡ ุณูŠุฆุชู‡ ูุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ู…ุคู…ู†. (ุชุฑู…ุฐูŠ 2/39)

ุนู† ุนู‚ุจุฉ ุจู† ุนุงู…ุฑ : ุฃู† ุฑุณูˆู„ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุตู„ู‰ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุนู„ูŠู‡ ูˆ ุณู„ู… ู‚ุงู„ ุฅูŠุงูƒู… ูˆุงู„ุฏุฎูˆู„ ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ู†ุณุงุก ูู‚ุงู„ ุฑุฌู„ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃู†ุตุงุฑ ูŠุง ุฑุณูˆู„ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ! ุฃูุฑุฃูŠุช ุงู„ุญู…ูˆ ุŸ ู‚ุงู„ ุงู„ุญู…ูˆ ุงู„ู…ูˆุช (ุชุฑู…ุฐูŠ 1/220)

ูˆุฃู…ุง ุงู„ุฌู…ุน ุจูŠู† ุฐูˆุงุช ุงู„ุฃุฑุญุงู… ูุฅู†ู‡ ู„ุง ูŠุฌู…ุน ุจูŠู† ุฃุฎุชูŠู† ุจู†ูƒุงุญ ูˆู„ุง ุจูˆุทุก ุจู…ู„ูƒ ูŠู…ูŠู† ุณูˆุงุก ูƒุงู†ุชุง ุฃุฎุชูŠู† ู…ู† ุงู„ู†ุณุจ ุฃูˆ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฑุถุงุน ู‡ูƒุฐุง ููŠ ุงู„ุณุฑุงุฌ ุงู„ูˆู‡ุงุฌ ูˆุงู„ุฃุตู„ ุฃู† ูƒู„ ุงู…ุฑุฃุชูŠู† ู„ูˆ ุตูˆุฑู†ุง ุฅุญุฏุงู‡ู…ุง ู…ู† ุฃูŠ ุฌุงู†ุจ ุฐูƒุฑุง ู„ู… ูŠุฌุฒ ุงู„ู†ูƒุงุญ ุจูŠู†ู‡ู…ุง ุจุฑุถุงุน ุฃูˆ ู†ุณุจ ู„ู… ูŠุฌุฒ ุงู„ุฌู…ุน ุจูŠู†ู‡ู…ุง ู‡ูƒุฐุง ููŠ ุงู„ู…ุญูŠุท (ุงู„ูุชุงูˆู‰ ุงู„ู‡ู†ุฏูŠุฉ 1/ 277)
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Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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