Assalam Aleikum warahmatuallah wabarakat.
I have married to my husband since 2016.He is Revert but something’s in Deen are not so strong with him.
I believe he has a Mental condition that is on and off.He has had a traumatic childhood his mum died when he was 4 dad left him and remained. He was Married at 18 ,he went to jail as a juvenile, his first wife cheated on him with another man..
Basically what I am try ing to say if you add all that up you will conclude that he has a Mental issue, so much so that the state made an evaluation and decided he has a Mental disability of some kind .itd not always but the trigger is extreme jealousy that just sets him off.
I didn’t know all that before I Married him having said that I don’t want to be separated from him, because the better times are more than bad times.
For that reason I am asking for s Fatwa.He is Jealous of my Dad Brothers,his own son ,any men that even glances at our house even if I am in the Back room and I am not present it bothers him.
My Question is he has pronounced divorce so many times when his mental condition kicks in ,I felt I had to ask.
Latest incident, he was to take me to my hospital appointment, then he says ho by yourself I took the car out as I was backing out it got stuck in the snow I went back in and called him he came out when he tried he couldn’t take it out the neighbor came to him he managed to get it out as I got back in the car ,I said thank you to the neighbor and to another stranger who came to help I didn’t even look at them..He pronounced divorce was in my menses ,when I was zahara, we prayed together read some Quran and Made Dua.Then I asked him again I said am clean did you mean it?.
He got upset and he said zi tricked him to read quran and pray and make Dua,So he said yes I meant it.
Now he is crying out to Allah and saying that he doesn’t want to be alone,his other family members are not following Islam basically he is on his own.
I am 3 days into my Iddaa what is the Fatwa,?
بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم
الجواب وباللہ التوفیق
In your circumstance, if the number of divorces pronounced by your husband were three or more, then three divorces have taken place on you, even if those were given during your menstrual period.
It is therefore haraam for a husband and wife to maintain marital relationship without halalah sharia.
وان کان الطلاق ثلاثا فی الحرۃ وثنتین فی الأمۃ لم تحل لہ حتی تنکح زوجا غیرہ نکاحا صحیحا فید خل بھا ثم یطلقھا أو یموت عنھا (الفتاویٰ الھندیہ: ۱؍۴۷۳
قال فی الولوالجیہ: ان کان بحال لو غضب یجری علی لسانہ مالا یحفظ بعدہ جازلہ الاعتماد علی قول الشاھدین ۔(شامی: ۴؍۴۵۳
فقط واللہ اعلم بالصواب