After having several miscarriages, I left my job and now I’m at home. Nothing stimulates me anymore, I got into the university course I thought I’d never get into but I didn’t even get excited, getting a new job isn’t a big deal for me, I’ll lie my way through the interview but I won’t make an effort to succeed highly. I’ve lost my motivation and my strength of will. I’ve been on a emotional rollercoaster since then.Getting up to get exercise or doing housework – it all seems like a chore. I don’t want to live sometimes but I continue to pray my salaat. What word of advice can you offer or is there a dua I should read?
We are very sorry to hear of your plight. Allah Ta’ala knows the wisdom of
his doings, perhaps the children that were to be born could have been a
calamity on you. This was from Allah and we should clearly understand that
we cannot escape the decision of Allah with regard to any matter in our
lives.
Whatever Allah Ta’ala decides will happen. We have to have faith in Tafweez
(resigning oneself to the decision of Allah) and Taqdeer (predestination).
This is the solution to all our anxieities, depression and worries. As the
servants and slaves of Allah, we should understand that our Master will
grant to us only that which is good for us. Our duty and endeavour is that
we supplicate and ask Allah, then make the correct Tadbeer (effort) and
thereafter leave the final decision to Allah Ta’ala. This brings peace,
contentment and happiness into one’s heart. Our advise is that you should
condition your heart and generate at least to some extent the favour of
Imaan. Conduct Ta’leem, i.e. read some portion from the famous book of
‘Fadhaail-e-Aamaal’ by Shaykh Zakariyya (RA) everyday and also search for a
Shaykh (spiritual mentor and guide) with whom one can easily relate and
attempt to acquire from him the love of Allah, the constant consciousness of
His presence and the reality of Tawakkul.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
FATWA DEPT.