Q: There is a family who want to come to my parents to ask for a marriage proposal for their son and me. I appreciate their son and I agree for their proposal. But my parents don’t let them come. They don’t want to even hear about their proposal because of their cast. We are Pakistani. We are from the upper cast and their are from the lower one. My parents don’t know the guy nor his family but they are not even ready to meet them. They told me that they prefer keeping me unmarried than marry me to this guy because of cast, because of the dunya. They told me that what would they say to the people if I marry that guy. Is their reaction right in Islam? If the guy agrees for the marriage and I agree too, if both of us are happy with this marriage, is it right for my parents to stop the marriage, to not let it happen? I am 26 and the guy’s family want to come since 2014, it has been 2 years that my parents refuse and delay my marriage whereas the guy is religious. Please can you help me and reply to my questions about it.
A: Their reasoning is corrupt. They should have paired you up by now. I suggest that some senior person in the family should advise them.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)