Answered by Shaykh Amjad Rasheed
Is it permissible for the husband to use his tongue on his wife’s private parts in order to stimulate her if his being able to satisfy her his dependent on this? Is it permissible for the wife to use her mouth on her husband’s private part in order for him to gain more pleasure from her?
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate
Yes, it is permissible for both the man and the woman to do what has been mentioned in the question, since every form of sexual enjoyment is permissible between husband and wife except for (1) anal intercourse and (2) deriving pleasure from what is between the navel and knee of women in menstruation or post-natal bleeding. These are the only two things that are forbidden between husband and wife.
However, one should note the following two points:
- It is not obligatory for the woman to do what has been mentioned in the question even if her husband demands it. The only thing that is obligatory for her is to make herself available for intercourse. If, however, she agrees to it, then it is permissible as mentioned above.
- The one who does what has been mentioned above should avoid filth if it is present on the private parts.
(Translated by Hamza Karamali)