Q. If husband and wife do not have relations but the husband uses his finger to please his wife, is wudhu or ghusal necessary for the wife?
A. Ghusal becomes necessary on a couple if they engaged in conjugal relations. Ghusal does not become necessary by the mere insertion of the finger into the private part of one’s wife/woman. (Fataawa Darul Uloom Deoband 1/133) In this case, the insertion of the finger into the private part of one’s wife/woman will necessitate Wudhu only. (Ahsanul Fataawa 2/20) However, if this is done to satisfy ones wife and ejaculation takes, then Ghusal will be necessary.
Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ismaeel Bassa