Parents not happy with the proposal

Q: Please help me. I am in very serious trouble. I started to like a girl from the last 3 years. She used to live in Lahore. My parents did give me permission to choose my own spouse and they were very happy.  My mother agreed but my father and brothers were like we are not in this matter it’s your own choice. Time passed, we got engaged last year everything was going smoothly. That girl supported me in every possible way. Two weeks back she visited my place for the first time with her mom and my dad and brother rejected her in first look and started to talk very negative about her. They went judgemental about her every negative thing they could find in her they lashed out. The girl is an orphan not to forget and my mom made a commitment to her mom that the wedding will be this year 2015. My mom also rejected her because of their personal reasons. She wanted a beautiful girl for me with a strong family background and stuff. Now no one is on my side. My dad is getting very angry and forcing me to call off this engagement and finish this relationship with her. Tell me what are my rights now? I’m planning to run away because they clearly won’t accept her at any cost. Please guide me what to do?


A: It is your right. It does not seem that they have sufficient grounds to command you to cancel the nikaah.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)