Respect for parents

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Q: I have been listening since childhood that no matter what, we have to respect our mothers. But what if the mother is characterless? My mother secretly met a man and had very dangerous plans with eloping with him. I somehow came to know this and informed my father. My father spoke to her but she is not willing to stay back and marry the other man. How can I respect such a mother? She has no affection towards her children also. I have been suffering a lot past few months. Please guide me.


A: There is no doubt about the wrong of her behaviour. Make du`aa for her and don’t disrespect her. If she is willing to put of the marriage perhaps it may be a better idea that she ends up the marriage and live a respectable married life with the next person.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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