Q: My wife and I have not had a sexual relations for the past 13 months. Our reasons are many..

  1. We could not do the act properly due to her weight or at least I felt so.
  2. I met with a major accident in early last year and was disturbed for sometime, however there was no physical problem with me.
  3. I was travelling on work and we were living separately off and on for duration of upto a month or a little more.

I was listening to the tarjuma of the Quran and came to know about the verse regarding ila. I did not know about this verse earlier and the time limit of 4 months mentioned in this verse. Though I have never told her that I will not have physical relations with her with the intention of ila, however I might have told her the same “I don’t want to do it until you lose weight” when we would have had arguments. I did not know about ila, else I would have never uttered such words even in arguments. We have had our differences but we are trying to sort them out. In view of the above circumstances is our talaq confirmed as it has passed the 4 month period of ila? I do not want to separate and I have not told her regarding this yet. I am very disturbed.


A: No, this will not be ilaa.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)