Being unsatisfied with one’s wife

Q: I am a new Muslim about 3 years. I married 10 months ago. My wife is ugly, every time she becomes ill and she is having high tempreture, her face is full with pimples. When I saw her at night, the day before marriage, I was unable to recognize because her face was covered with niqaab and I was very shy. 

Sheikh, she is very religious, always prays Tahajud, and always wearing niqaab. She loves me very much. She is 100 % satisfied with me and very happy. But sheikh I am not satisfied with her. I am acting as if I like her very much, but in fact I am unhappy. I am trying to kill my heart but cant. I read some hadith such as: 

It was narrated that Abu Hurairah (RA) said: Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “No believing man should hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he may be pleased with another.” 

Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “The most complete of the believers in faith is the one with the best character among them. And the best of you are those who are best to your women.” 

I never had relationship with women after and before Islam. First time I had relations was with my wife. I don’t have any intention to marry another. All my family are still not Muslim. My family doesn’t know about my marriage. 

Sheikh, I had a dream about wife but after marriage it was broken. Our relation is very good, she is happy but all I know is that I am only acting for the sake of Allah. I don’t want to make her disappointed. My question is:

1. I don’t like her but she don’t know about that , I used to lie about that, I am trying to make her happy whatever. Is it Haraam to act like

2. How to become happy? What should I do?

3. Any especial duaa?

I hope you will understand.



1. No.

2. We suggest that you take the advice of some elderly experienced learned person.

3. There is no specific du`aa. However, you could make du`aa that Allah Ta`ala keep you happy with all that is destined for you.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)