Q: A friend of mines had a question about marrying a person who is a shia and willing to follow and raise the children as Sunni:
My question is that I want to marry this girl but she is Shia, if the girl is willing to marry me, raise our family and follow the Sunni way as my parents want is it gunaah or forbidden to marry a Shia if they do not convert? Her parents would accept me as a Sunni they just would not want her to convert but she will follow the Sunni way and also raise our chidlren sunni. Please keep in mind we have not talked to our parents about this situation yet and please give me some guidance as I do not want to go against anyone’s parents. The only thing we have done so far is complete the isthikara which came out good alhumdulillah.
I did Istikhara for 7 days:
Istikhara: first night dream: He saw in his dream he was taking a picture of the girl and his family together like a group photo.
On the fifth night he did istikhara he had a dream where he saw lots of trees and her in a white shalwr kameez coming to his house accompanied by her little brother.
1. Is it gunna or forbidden to marry a Shia if they do not convert?
2. Is their a conversion process from Shia to Sunni? What does a Shia person have to do to become Sunni?
A: Shiahs and Muslims are poles apart. They believe that the Qur’aan Shareef has been distorted. Similarly, they also believe that the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu anhum) had turned apostate, Allah forbid. The one who believes in this is obviously a kaafir. Hence, if this shiah woman wants to accept Islam by reciting the kalimah and clearly renouncing all her kufr and corrupt beliefs then it is permissible.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
عن أبي سعيد الخدري قال: قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: «لا تسبوا أصحابي فلو أن أحدكم أنفق مثل أحد ذهبا ما بلغ مد أحدهم ولا نصيفه» . متفق عليه (مشكاة #6007)
وفي الفتح عن الخلاصة: ومن أنكر خلافة الصديق أو عمر فهو كافر اهـ ولعل المراد إنكار استحقاقهما الخلافة، فهو مخالف لإجماع الصحابة لا إنكار وجودها لهما بحر. وينبغي تقييد الكفر بإنكار الخلافة بما إذا لم يكن عن شبهة كما مر عن شرح المنية، بخلاف إنكار صحبة الصديق تأمل (رد المحتار 1/561)