Q: Please advise me, I come from a tablighi family background. I have met this girl, she is hard core sunni. The entire family, mazaars salami etc. Is it ok to marry into this family? I don’t follow their stuff rose water and feather duster and standing for salami. I wasn’t brought up to. Please advise me on what to do. Also they don’t want to let us get married but instead wait a few years. We both over 20 and know each other for 3 years.
A: If you fear that at the time of the nikaah or after the nikaah you will succumb to the bid’aat and wrong practises that the girls family is involved in, or you will not be able to prevent your wife and offspring from attending their gatherings and being influenced towards their wrong beliefs and practises, then you should not get married in this family.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
عن عائشة رضي الله عنها ، قالت : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : من أحدث في أمرنا هذا ما ليس منه فهو رد (مشكاة # 140)
كل بدعة ضلالة و كل ضلالة في النار (الجامع الصغير1/100)
Answered by:
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)