Treating the husband’s children like one’s own children

Answered according to Hanafi Fiqh by

Q: I got married about two years ago. My husband is a widower and has two sons from his first wife. Masha Allah the kids and I love each other like a real mother and children. But recently I read that Islam is not in favour of adopting children and that it says in the Qur’an Shareef that “your adopted sons are not your own”. I am disturbed about my position now as I had married with an intention to love these kids as my own.


A: As far as your husbands children are concerned, though they will not be your own children, however showing them compassion and love and treating them like your own children will earn you great amount of reward and the pleasure of Allah Ta’ala.

It is reported in the Mubaarak Hadith that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) used to treat his Mubaarak wife Hazrat Umme Salamah (Radiyallahu Anha’s) children like his own children.

The verse of the Qur’an you referred to in your question commands that the lineage of adopted children should not be attributed to their adoptive parents instead to their biological parents.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

عمر بن أبي سلمة : أن النبي صلى الله الله عليه وسلم أتى بطعام فقال له : يا عمر يا بني سم الله وكل بيمينك وكل مما يليك (المعجم الكبير #8298)

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)