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I am engaged to my cousin from last 2 years, we have 10 years of difference in our age. We are dying to get married with each other but our parents specially my fiance’s parents are not willing to marry her daughter till 8 to 10 months more. My parents are ready but the girl’s parents are saying that we are not in a position to arrange money for marriage. My age is 31 now and I am losing control on my patience. I am afraid of going on wrong path if I dont get married till next 3 months. Please tell me weather girl’s parents are doing correct thing by holding our marriage?

Answered according to Hanafi Fiqh by Muftionline.co.za

Q: I am engaged to my cousin from last 2 years, we have 10 years of difference in our age. We are dying to get married with each other but our parents specially my fiance’s parents are not willing to marry her daughter till 8 to 10 months more. My parents are ready but the girl’s parents are saying that we are not in a position to arrange money for marriage. My age is 31 now and I am losing control on my patience. I am afraid of going on wrong path if I dont get married till next 3 months. Please tell me weather girl’s parents are doing correct thing by holding our marriage?

Bismillaah

A: The Hadith teaches us that when a suitable match is found for marriage, we should not delay otherwise there will be widespread fitnah (corruption) in the world. Ask someone who is familiar with the girls parents, to explain to them that the nikah should not be delayed. If they still wish to delay the nikah then (since they are pleased with the nikah taking place) it will permissible for you to get married whether with their knowledge or without their knowledge.

عن أبي هريرة قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم إذا خطب إليكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد عريض (جامع الترمذي رقم 1084)

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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