Refraining from obeying parents in matters that are against Shariah

Answered according to Hanafi Fiqh by

Q: I do shar’ee purdah covering all the parts of my body except my eyes, Alhamdulilah. I avoid the company of ghair mahrams to the best of my ability… But my parents are not at all happy with this, especially covering my face and wearing only black clothes (abaya). They feel ashamed about it and also compel me to come in front of ghair mahrams e.g., servants, masu, pufoo, etc. without the niqaab.

My mother especially, constantly keeps rebuking me and saying that by doing such I am hurting her and disobeying her and that she feels embarrassed by my entire black niqaab and attire… and by hurting her I will never stay at peace through my life and so on.

As far as I am concerned I know that if I am disobedient to Allah, I can never be obedient and loyal to anybody, be that my parents especially my mother. And respect and humiliation are both under the divine supremacy of Allah… I, in no way want to compromise to what my parents say just to please them or their social circle.

1. If I am wrong , please tell me what should I do?

2. And if I am right in disobeying and disrespecting/hurting my parents in this regard then I would request you to please give a piece of advice to my parents especially my mother.


A: Show love and respect to your parents and always be of service to them. However, you will not obey them in things that are against the Shari’ah. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said that there is no obedience to the creation in things that lead to the disobedience of Allah Ta’ala.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)