Q: I’m 24 years old and I was born with Cp. Basically I’m in a wheelchair and I can’t really do much like change, bath, et. My mum does all of that for me! I come from a pious family Alhumdullah but I live in the same yard as my uncle and he has 3 sons, all of age. When my foi’s come to visit they also have sons and I’m the only girl! All of us are unmarried. Alhumdullah besides this condition of mine my mind is fine.
I’ve been wanting to go into pardah for many years now especially because of our living conditions and now that we are all grown up! When I expressed my desire to my mum she said that wearing a cloak and pardah will be too difficult for her to carry me because cloaks are slippery and she refuses for me to wear it! The best part of this is that my mum comes from a pious family and her entire family is in pardah!
I tried explaining to her that this is the order of Allah. If I wear it Allah will make it easy for her, but to no avail! She’s extremely stubborn. My mums family is full of Ulema and I tried to get them to talk to her but they just say “Allah knows your intention”.
I see how my cousins look at me and I don’t buy into this whole cousins are your brothers story! I reached out to my grandparents, my Daadi doesn’t like pardah at all so I didn’t get anywhere with her and I won’t try. My naani says that I must make life easy for my mum as it is it’s so difficult! We are living in times of great finah. I don’t know what to do. Please advise.
A: May Allah Ta`ala reward you for your good efforts. Continue trying to the best of your ability. Insha-Allah, one day Allah Ta`ala will crown your efforts with success. Don’t leave trying.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)