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Wife calling the husband by his name

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Q: Can a wife call her husband by his name?

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A: The great jurist, Allamah Shaami (rahimahullah) has mentioned that it is reprehensible (makrooh) for the wife to call the husband by his name. Hence, when addressing him or calling him, she should call him with a respectable title e.g. if he is an aalim or haafiz, she may call him Haafiz Saheb or Moulana. If he is not an aalim or haafiz, she may refer to him as the father of her eldest son or daughter e.g. Zaid’s father or Faatimah’s father. 

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

(ويكره أن يدعو الرجل أباه وأن تدعو المرأة زوجها باسمه) اهـ بلفظه.(الدر المختار 6/418)

قال العلامة ابن عابدين – رحمه الله-: (قوله ويكره أن يدعو إلخ) بل لا بد من لفظ يفيد التعظيم كيا سيدي ونحوه لمزيد حقهما على الولد والزوجة، وليس هذا من التزكية، لأنها راجعة إلى المدعو بأن يصف نفسه بما يفيدها لا إلى الداعي المطلوب منه التأدب مع من هو فوقه.(رد المحتار 6/418)

يكره أن يدعو الرجل أباه والمرأة زوجها باسمه كذا في السراجية.(الفتاوى الهندية 5/362)

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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