Q: I’ve been married since 5 months. My parents made me get married against my will even when istikhara was not right but I accepted it and started this life honestly and happily with my husband.
After marriage, on the very first day I got to know that my husband is completely impotent. During these 5 months we never had intercourse. Apart from that, he doesn’t even care for me either I’m sick or anything happens to me. He works in a mill, comes home in the evening, has his dinner and sleeps. That’s his daily routine.
He told me that he has consulted a doctor and taking medicines for his impotency. I believed him and remained calm but there’s no difference. I haven’t even seen him taking any medicines.
My parents too are not supporting me. This relation is now nothing more than a useless weight on my shoulders. I’m so depressed and sick since a month.
I’ve heard somewhere that if spouses never have intercourse when they’re living together then they’re automatically divorced. Is it true?
And, can I ask for khulaa (divorce) myself now? Feelings of hatred are buillding up in me against him. I feel like I’ll kill him or myself someday. May Allah Paak forgive me for such thoughts but this hatred is not is my control. What shall I do?
1. This is not true.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)