Q: My husband had built a house for us and now my husband is abroad so I’m at my mother’s place. My sister in law also has her own house and she had an idea of demolishing her own house and re making the house again. She is well wealthy also. After she demolished her house, my husband told her that she can come and live in our own house. So now my sister in law, her husband, her 2 children, my mother in law, my father in law, and my other sister in law and her husband and her 4 children are living there.
My second sister in law also has her own house. But she also is now living in my house with her children and her husband. Now there are so many people living in my house and all of them are my in laws and their children.
Before they came to my home, my home was clean and good looking. Now they have made my home totally untidy and all their clothes are everywhere. All the things of my home are messed up and they have changed everything as they wish. Some items are missing in my home. Even the bathrooms have become stinky.
When I go home, I hate how dirty it is and they all ignore me. They forgot that it is my home. My husband says that his sister and his whole family have full right to change everything in my home. He says that his family have more over my home than me. My questions are:
1. Can they live in my home when me and my husband are not there?
2. Do they have permission to change everything in my home as they wish?
3. Many items are missing in my home after they came, can they do like that?
3. Can they enjoy their lives while destroying my home?
4. If my husband built a house from his own money, who are the real owners of that property?
A: Be patient. May Allah Ta`ala reward you for your patience.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)