Q: Three years ago after giving birth, my auntie had her operation done to avoid conceiving any more children. This was because she was facing alot of marriage problems and had this done without notifying her husband. The reason being was that she was worried that it might have a reverse affect on her marriage or her husband wouldn’t support her decision. Its been 3 years now and her husband is still unaware of this.
Now mmy auntie has alot of remorse and regret for her action. She feels she is deceiving her husband who really wants another child. She is unable to tell her husband about this act as she fears it might ruin her marriage or she will lose her husband’s trust. My auntie is facing a dilemma and doesnt know what to do.
She has cried in front of Allah and asked Allah’s for forgiveness many times considering this act of hers to be wrong.
Apart from this alhumdulilah she is living a happy married life. Both her and her husband want to have another child preferably a son as they have 2 daughters. My auntie also thinks she will be able to concieve and she has seen many dreams where either her mom (deceased) is giving her a new born baby or she has had one herself. She has also spoken to the doctors to ask her if anything can be reversed however they have said no.
Could you please help my auntie out of this situation. What should she do to remove this guilt from her life? Is there anything that she can pray to have another child despite the operation.?
A: What can be done now. She has wronged. There was no reason for her to go for permanent ligation. Ask Allah’s help and forgiveness.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)