Q: I am writing in regards to my situation.
My mother is a single parent with my father having left when we were very young. Many people have sent proposals and my mum refuses each one without any valid reason. Now there has been one proposal from someone I like and I am happy with but my mother is refusing and when asked why says “just”.
My grandmother (my mother’s mother) and my mum’s sister and uncle have looked into the man and his family and are satisfied with his deen and character and from people that know them we have found out that they are respected and humble practising people and the boy is of good character and practising masha’allah. I am very happy with this and would like to go ahead and the rest of my family are also happy but my mum just wont let me get married and won’t let me even speak about it and doesn’t have any valid reason to say.
I don’t know what to do in this situation as I only have my mother as my guardian as my father didn’t keep in touch since he left and my brother is only 20 and unfortunately got into the wrong crowd and not at home. My mum doesn’t have any brothers either, only sisters. My mother unfortunately does not prioritise deen and I know that either she will not want me to marry for years or the people she may eventually consider will not be based first and foremostly on deen which is what I want.
I don’t know what to do in this situation as I would like to marry this person and all the rest of my family are happy with the proposal. I would appreciate your guidance on this matter
A: If your uncles and the elders of your family are pleased with the boys deen, character and mannerisms then you should accept the proposal and get married.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)