Q: I wanted to marry a person whom I loved. He met my parents to propose. After enquiring, all my family members were not satisfied but they agreed for it to happen. His family wanted little time and my family argued and it ended up with their ego problems. I still want him.
Asthagfirullah, we made some sins and we regretthat. Within the next day, they found another proposal for me, I begged my parents and cried a lot that I couldn’t marry someone else but my father said that he will never forgive me, and his curse will be always with me. I was helpless and I didn’t want to make them cry because of me and I thought Allah will never forgive me if I hurt them. Forcefully I agreed and Nikah happened.
I am not happy because the person I loved is going through the worst because of me and my mind is full of our memories. I can’t go to my college because there are our memories. I don’t know whether I could adjust with the person my parents have chosen. I have told him everything and he has no problem with that. But I am not sure I will be ok with him or not because my mind is still crying for the person I love.
Unknowingly this person I married is a victim. I want to know what should I do? Will Allah forgive me for making him wait for me to be ok because I am denying him the right of a husband because I couldn’t change my mind as fast. I am helpless and lost. Can you give me a solution. If I divorce him will Allah forgive me? I have this thought that I am doing wrong to the person I loved?
A: This is the consequence of your premarital relationship. All types of premarital relationships are haraam. A person who indulges in haraam faces the consequences. Make taubah for all the haraam relationship that you have indulged in sincerely. Obey your parents. If you do this wholeheartedly and sincerely Allah will definitely accept you and embrace you with love.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)