Q: I’m married to my husband for the past 12 years. He was married before and has a daughter from the first wife. Their marriage lasted 10 years with court case and everything and the court granted them divorce. The custody of the daughter went to the mother. After 3 months of divorce my husband got married to me. The first wife took the child and never ever allowed a glance of her daughter to my husband. Alhamdullilah, Allah has blessed us with three kids and we were very content with our life. My husband’s daughter who is 21 years old now called her dad one day saying she wants to come live with us. My husband, without informing me or asking my consent brings her home over nite. The reason she has come over is because she is having an affair with some guy, whom the mother dislikes. The reason for writing this letter is, I can’t accept her. I feel my privacy has been invaded. My husband is giving me less attention, there are fights between us now and I have gone into depression. The daughter is not in contact with the mother now. I just want to know did my husband do a right thing to bring her home without my consent and why can’t I accept her wholeheartdly? Why do I feel jealous?
A: It is his right. I suggest that you should not get involved in his relationship with his daughter.
Ignore these feelings. Don’t pay attention to these feelings.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)