Q: I wanted to enquire if it is permissible for me to use the coil or any other contraceptives. The reason being is that I got married 8 months ago and ever since I have been facing alot of problems at the hands of my mother in law. Problems were increasing day by day which included abuse, emotional harassment and insult. My husband wasn’t able to do much either and it all resulted in big arguments with my husband too.
Now its been 2 months since I’m at my parents house and the problems just increased and went to such an extent where my marriage was on the verge of ending. Im trying to makeup with my in-laws with the help of my father in law, however I dont think I can have children after all these issues. I would like to see if my husband has realised his mistakes and actually changed in the long run before I plan to have children. My husband isnt willing to understand this point of mine but I think I cant risk my life or my childs life as if things remain the same I will have to seek khula which I hope doesn’t happen.
Thus would it be permissible for me to have the coil inserted or use any other methods of contraceptive without my husband’s consent and it being in his knowledge. I hope this isnt classed as me decieving my husband.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)