Wife not happy with the husband using preventative measures
Q: Under the following circumstances, is it ja’iz for me to use condoms to avoid pregnancy? For the past several years, my wife has been bedridden due to an incurable disease. About a year ago, I did a second marriage so that my second wife could take care of the house and myself. She is about 42 years old while I am 51 years of age. Recently, my second wife was diagnosed with diabetes. About a month ago, she underwent a minor surgery that required general anesthesia to be given to her. The surgery had to be delayed twice as her sugar level was not coming down and anesthesia could not be given. Finally, the doctors had to use some other method rather than anesthesia to do the surgery. I have been suffering from osteoporosis. In addition, over the past couple of years, have been losing weight. Doctors haven’t been able to diagnose the reason of weight loss and investigations are going on. Because of my and my second wife’s health issues I use condoms to avoid her becoming pregnant against her will. She wants to have at least one child.
A: If your wife is not happy, it will not be permissible for you to adopt this preventative measure as it will deprive her of her full conjugal right.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)