Q: So, one of my cousins accuses me of talking negative about her behind her back at the time we were good, I’m not that close to my cousins who live locally near me although I want to be, so I was close with this one cousin she accused me of talking negative about her behind her back and she didn’t give me time to explain and ignored me, I never once talked negative about her behind her back, before she ignored me she finished the chat saying she wants to cut me out of her life forever, months later my parents tried to get her and me to start talking again , she then told me that someone said that I had been backstabbing her, i was shocked since I never talk to anyone in my family (meaning cousins) and I wouldn’t talk about her behind her back anyway , I then asked her what did I “supposedly say about you” as in what did this person say to you that I apparently had said , I also asked her who said this about me, she said No I can’t tell you because I’m the Quran it says that breaking a promise whether it is bad or good is haram , I then said why would you tell me that someone said that I said something negative about you behind my back yet you won’t tell me what they said or who they are ? Is it a bigger sin to cover up for another persons sin and not tell the victim what has been said? How am I meant to get self justice for myself. Till now my cousins still ignore and now have been arguing with my brother “exposing sins”
A: The fact that you have informed them that what reached them is not true, is sufficient. You do not need to pay attention to their criticism. However, you should continue to show them good character.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)