Q: I was an orphan and was brought up by my father’s brother. My cousins are planning to give a surprise birthday party calling all his close people like friend’s, relatives, etc. I normally don’t attend birthday parties but now I’m confused. I don’t want to attend the party but at the same time I feel bad because they will feel bad since we were all brought up in the same house like his own children. In recent times our relationship has distanced to some extent, I’m in a dilemma that if I don’t attend will our relationship further worsen.
A: Tell them that you appreciate all that they have done, but because this is not a sunnat therefore they should excuse you.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)