Q: I need your help. I got married by my mother. She chose my wife for me Alhamdulilah but my mother now wants me to divorce my wife because they say she sleep with men and call her names and when she is very sick they say she fakes it and get between our problems even my aunt’s want her to come over to clean the house and do work for free but I tell my wife not to because I believe that’s wrong. So they tell my mother she don’t listen and they keep telling lies about my wife. My big brother tells me to divorce her even tho he has never seen her. She’s in morocco and I live in the U.S with my family and I’m fixing my wife’s papers so she can come live with me inshallah. Also she prays and has patience and always tells me it’s not your fault, Allah is testing you just be patient. Alhamdulilah it’s because of her I’m still with my family. So what should I do, should I obey my mother and divorce her or should I move away when my wife comes inshallah and I respect my mother? My mother is very very very jealous and tough on me and always talking bad about my wife and calling her bad names. My mother even says if you have kids with her you are not my son and if I have a son she will never see me and him again and keeps yelling at me and telling my big brothers to tell me for divorce and they force me but Alhamdulilah I’m patient and I tell them I don’t talk to her no more because I don’t want to deal with the headache. So I keep me and my wife secret until she comes. Should I do divorce because my family wants or should I move away and contact them time to time?
A: Maintain your wife and take good care of your mother.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)