Refraining from asking the husband questions which may irritate him

Answered according to Hanafi Fiqh by

Q: My husband recently started a new business course. I asked him how many women are there in the class and he got very angry and said I am pathetic and a sad person.

1. Islamically is it okay for a wife to enquire such things from her husband?

2. Can you please refer me to specific duas to help our marriage and to calm my husband down as he has a very bad short temper (with everyone).



1. It may be better that you avoid asking questions that may irritate him.

2. Recite the following: “Yaa Subboohu Yaa Quddoosu Yaa Ghafooru Yaa Wadoodu” seven times and blow into his food and drink and subtly onto him as well. Don’t say anything that will irritate him.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)