Q: I am a 29 years old, unmarried, looking for a partner. I am struggling to find someone compatible. However today I was driving home at night and saw an ex-boyfriend of mine who is now married walking to mosque with his son. I offered him a ride to mosque and we ended up talking for some time. He asked why I broke up with him and admitted that he still cared for me. I made a joke out of it. Later on I asked him if he could find me a husband, he said he could not but he asked how I felt about being a second wife. My reply was no because I feel I am too jealous. However, I remember watching one of sister aaminas videos where she said that polygamy is actually a gift to the women. I was wondering if you could please explain this to me as I feel if I understood it better I might be more open to it.
A: At the outset, remember that talking to males in this manner is haraam and forbidden. A woman is not supposed to be talking to males in this manner. For many women it is a gift, where a woman will only have half a responsibility and the other half will be borne by the next wife.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)