Q: What to do when relatives (around 12 people or sometimes more than that) come to your home without invitation and it makes you so frustrated that you are unable to follow the Sunnah of hospitality, however you still take care of their comfort and food? What to do when their stay makes you extremely tired, restless and helpless. You can’t sleep well. Your kids can’t study and you can’t go to your work place on time and also when all of these people come from another city to do their shopping and you have to take care of their children while they go to shop. Please tell me what to do. I don’t want to behave badly with anyone. I don’t want to make my Allah angry but their stay make me literally ill. It gives me migraine because they are extremely loud people and they keep talking late night till three. My father says it is in Deen. No matter what they do with us, we have to be nice otherwise we will get gunnaah. But I don’t believe this, because in Islam there are equal rights for everyone. Allah can’t let only one person suffer.
A: The patience of your father and kindness is worth emulating. Although this is not an obligation, but definitely it is an indication of the high standard of nobility and kindness. May Allah Ta`ala allow the goodness to continue in your home.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)