Q: I am 32 years old. I got married 10 years ago and have three kids. I had a relation in my past with other guy. I wanted to marr him but because of some issues did not get married. My husband is a very nice person but from some relatives of mine he came to know about my past. For the past 10 years I suffered from his anger now I am very much changed and pray, do prayers and istighfaar. My husband asked me to take an oath and touch the Qur’an and tell him everything. I don’t want to distroy my marriage life and my three kids life. I also tell him about my past, but my husband wants to know each and everything which I don’t want to tell him because I don’t feel good. Please guide me. Can I take and oath for saving my marriage life and my kids life.
A: I suggest that you take the oath and at the end say Insha-Allah. As a precautionary measure you may just do the kaffarah of breaking an oath.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)