Q: Mein bahut parishan hoon.Actually I stay alone at home and think about divorce all the time,what if my husband said this or that. Yesterday, I told him I have a few questions(4) to ask you. It was regarding one day where we fought and we were not speaking to each other. Then when he came back home i tried to make up and asked him something upon which he told me ‘over’ or ‘tum sab khatam ker dee/it’s over. I dont remember exactly but it was something like this.(there was no discussion of talaq/marriage. Yesterday I told him about the incident , he said ,I dont remember. Then i told him that you said ‘over/something like that. I asked him if he had some wrong intention.(Aap ka koi ghalat matlab nahi tha na?) He said ‘No’.He said ‘mera aisa koi matlab nahi tha’. Then he told me you have asked for today.(I told him i will ask you four questions). Husband says ‘tumhera aaj ka ho gaya hai'(question). I think he said twice(Dont remember exactly) Then I don t think I asked the same question again. I was quiet for 2-3 seconds listenting to him.(when he said ,tumhere aaj ka(sawal) ho gaya hai).After 2-3 seconds, Then all of a sudden he tells me ‘haan hai’. ‘There is’.I asked him what ‘love’.I told him I am asking you something else. I asked him what you mean by ‘haan hai’. He told me that topic was over and that he started another topic.I asked him if he said in continuation of the topic.He said ‘No’. I asked him again, Did I ask you again the same question again, and you said ‘yes’?. He says ‘no’something else was going on in your mind and something else was going on in my mind. I took promise from him on Allah ( which I never do) and he promised 2-3 times that he meant ‘haan hai’ for something else. Now I am confused. GOD FORBID, What if he meant for that topic ? I am so confused. He tells me I didnot mean it for that topic.Did he mean ,’ haan hai, intention of divorce’. I asked him today also he said, he meant love. I am scared what if I had repeated the question and he said ‘haan hai’ but if that would have been the case i would panicked. I didn t panic when he said ‘haan hai’.I just asked what. Has something wrong happened? God forbid, talaq or something.It keeps coming in my mind why he said ‘haan hai’. Does ‘Haan hai’ an incomplete statement? Sorry for troubling you,I dont have any one to share this problem. Please advise.Jazak Allah khair.
A: These are not acts of virtue and you will not get any thawaab for this nor was this the way of the pious. Engage in your work. Regularly make ta`leem of Fazaa’il-e-A`maal and Fazaa’il-e-Sadaqaat and recite the Qur’aan Shareef. Increase your recitation of durood shareef.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)