Q: I just want to ask a question, does thoughts and images in your mind constitute hurmat-e-musaaharah. E.g when I want to hug my dad as a father or shake my hand I am scared to touch him because I remember hurmat-e-musaaharah and I don’t want my nikah or my dad’s nikah to be broken, so I get these thoughts of him. But I don’t have no lustful feeling for him but I am scared. Second I am scared to have children. If I have a son and I have to kiss him as a mother even after he gets bigger or he holds me, I am worried about hurmat musaaharah. As a parent I would I like to love my kids and my parents. But what do I do with theses thoughts in mind. What is lust for a woman. I love my husband so much of course I don’t have any feeling for my dad but I just have these thoughts.
A: Thoughts do not affect the nikaah.
Don’t worry about all this. These are all stupid baseless thoughts.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)