Q: There is girl and she lives in Pakistan. She was married in 2006 wiht out her permission because she was poor and had no option. She didn’t
like her husband but she could not do anything. She never loved him and her husband knows that from the very first night. He just living with her because she is beautiful and he told her that if she was not pretty then he would have married with another girl in another city secretly. They have kids now (daughters).
I met her 3 years ago because someone ask me to marry her sister and I talked to her family but in few days I found that I like her instead of her sister so I said no and I stopped talking to her.
After 2 years (last year) met again on chat and started talking and she asked me the reason but I didn’t tell her but we kept talking and talking and after few weeks she got feelings for me because she never loved her husband and we got involved in each other but we never met and never cross limits Alhamdulillah. It was getting tuff for us and we tried to search if Islam allow us to marry after getting divorce from her husband but we found answer ”NO” on your website and we didn’t want to risk our next life and make Allah angry. I lied to her that I am getting married and we stopped talking but in 6 months we never stopped loving each other and we pray 5 times and recite Qur’an and make dua but feeling never ended. We now talked again after 6 months and it’s same. It’s tough for her to live with him any more.
I know its all devilish things we did but we never cross limits and we tried to disconnect from each other. But I think now that we are making sin with this so we get married and she tells everything to her husband and get divorce. I could think different if she was in love with her husband and then changed her feelings. But she never.
We are very much religious Alhamdulillah and pray and can never think of making unlawful things but its tough now.
I want to ask if we marry then will we have any chance to get forgiveness of Allah and make Him happy. I know you must be getting angry with me but I think it’s better to marry with each other than making sins.
Please help us in the light of Quran and Sunnah.
A: To intend terminating another person’s marriage is a major crime. Just as if you are in a secure marriage and someone tries to turn you away from your wife, it is a major crime. You will not burn yourself and then say that there is a chance for recovery.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)