Q: I am 28 years old and feel problems in learning and understanding things. I am physically weak but I worked hard in education and reached Software Engineering level and passed it. I faced many diseases since childhood but now I have no apparent disease besides I am still weak. I undergone my medical tests but doctors told me that I have no significant problem. In daily life I feel problems in doing, understanding and learning things. And due to these problems I spent plenty of time on researching about mental and Psychological health issues which makes me exhausted besides wastage of my time. Most of the time I feel depressed. Real problem is that when I compare my self with my other fellows, I feel disappointed regarding my abilities. I also feel that my relatives also compare me with others and they feel that I am not doing up to the standard. Now I want to ask that did Allah Almighty create every person with equal abilities? Or are some people born with problems? How can I be satisfied with my present abilities? Some doctors and other people told me that I have no problem just have over sensitivity that makes me anxious. I feel disappointed when I solve a problem in 3 hours but others solves it in 3 minutes. I feel comparatively deficient. Please read my problems carefully and guide me according to Islamic teachings so that I may be able to live a healthy life.
A: You should not pay attention nor get affected through people’s opinions and comments because it is not possible for one to please everybody at the same time. Instead, you should be more concerned with pleasing Allah Ta’ala and being concerned about your relationship with him. Keep Allah Ta’ala before you at all times and be pleased with His decree. This will guard you against people’s negative opinions and comments.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)