Q: I am 15/16 years old. I have unfortunately fallen in love with my cousin. I don’t know how it happened but it did. I tell myself that it’s infatuation. I really don’t know what to do. My thoughts are about him for more than 1/4 of the day. I hardly ever speak to him. Either way we don’t generally communicate. We do if there’s a need. I do unfortunately see him and there’s no purda between us. I need help. I want to stop thinking about him. I am not in the position for marriage right now, I want to focus on my studies. I feel sad when I see him on social networks etc. and not following me back or liking other girls posts, tweets or pictures. etc. I hate myself so much for feeling like this. The thoughts come and I don’t know what to do. Sometimes I literally bite my arm to stop my stupid mind. Please advise on what can I do? I am doing hifz and Aalimah. I can’t believe how bad I’ve become.
A: Break up all communication with him and don’t even speak to him. Don’t be around the place where he is. The best is to break all your gadgets that you use for social networking.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)