Q: My daughter got a marriage proposal from a boy. My daughter is doing 3rd year aalima course at a local madressa and will complete end 2017. This proposal now came and she said she can only marry after completing her aalima studies in 2017. Due to pressure from boys side to marry earlier and after speaking to her family and friends. She gave in and accepted the proposal on condition that she could complete her 3rd year studies which ends in December 2015. Now a problem arose and the boys side are pressurising her to marry in 3 weeks time and they said she has to obey as its haraam if she doesn’t marry immediately. We, the girls parents, family are siding with her to marry end 2015 when her madressa closes. What do we do in this situation. She is not mentally ready to marry now as she only intended marrying after completing aalima course in 2017. So now the proposal came and after excepting she will marry end 2015 the boys side wants to marry in three weeks time. They say its not permissible to wait till end of 2015. Please advise as we are in a dilemma.
A: If you are not pleased with the boy or if you genuinely feel that she is not yet prepared for marriage responsibilities then they should oblige and allow the nikaah to be delayed.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)