Premarital contact

Answered according to Hanafi Fiqh by

Q: I am engaged and my in-laws are much wealthier than my family. I talk to my fiance on text messages. I observe the girl is rich and her parents fullfil all her wishes. She uses all expensive items which I know I cannot afford. My fiance’s life routine is very different and my routine is very different. I told my parents about the routine they said girl will adjust herself after marriage. When my parents were looking for a girl for me, they never asked me what kind of girl I wanted to be my wife, what kind of in-laws etc. My family just fixed my engagement and showed me the girl. When I spoke her on Messages, I was disappointed. I cannot say to my parents that I don’t want to merry her because they are very happy with this relationship, and this is not good for the girl also to break the engagement. Please help me I am tense.


A: You should not have any contact with the girl till the time of your nikaah. Premarital contact is not permissible in Islam. We suggest that you inform the girls family regarding your financial position and if they are still happy to get their daughter married to you, then there is no problem in you marrying her.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)