Saying, “You are” in anger
Saying, “You are” in anger?
In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful.
It is mentioned in Durrul Mukhtar:
“The main part (rukn) of divorce is the specific statement.” (Raddul Muhtar p.426 v.4)
For divorce to occur it is necessary that the words of divorce are executed either clearly which will result in the divorce occurring straightaway or ambiguously which will result in the divorce occurring if there was intention or through “Dalalat Haal” (prevalent circumstances).
With regards to your question if the husband said, “you are” whether it was said in anger or not it will no break the marriage.
Only Allah Knows Best
Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
Read these QA to learn more..
- My wife and I have been married for 12 years, going on to 13. We’ve had our ups and downs, and also a lot of problems, which we always tried to resolve. A few days ago, during a very heated argument and fight, I told her talaaq thrice, not realising what I have said at that point in time, due to anger, and stress. I regret saying it, but didn’t realise the impact it would have. And I would have never said it under another circumstance. I love her very much, we have two lovely kids Shukar Alhamdulillah, and now don’t know if we can continue. Insha Allah we can, because my family is what I strive for, and I would please like to know if it is valid, as I was in a state of extreme anger, with both of us saying very bad things to each other. Please advise.
- My husband in anger said three times I divorce you and then same day he said I want to keep you as a wife, it was a mistake in anger. It was not by heart. What should I do?
- My question is this that if a husband in anger said to his wife three times face to face that “I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you”, at the same time then is this divorce valid? After telling these words now he is saying that he was in anger and he had no intention to give divorce to her. So I have some more questions below: (1) Is intention necessary, important and essential part to give divorce by a husband? If there is no intention and a husband used words of divorce three time like “I give you divorce” then has divorce taken place? What is the importance of intention of a husband to give divorce? (2) If the husband was in anger, and now saying he was angry, then divorce given in anger is valid? (3) Is divorce given three times all at the same time saying words like “I give you divorce, I give you divorce, I give you divorce” is consider as one divorce or it is valid for three time divorce? And can a husband still take her wife back?
- My sister got married eight years ago and Alhamdulillah, she has no child till now and she is a house wife. We are Sunni Muslim (Malik) from India. This happened on 1 July2012, my sister had a verbal fight with her husband, according to my sister both raised voices and in much anger. My sister’s husband uttered these words (Talaq-Talaq-Talaq) to her in very anger but thereafter he is feeling remorse and saying this happened without any intention and without any preplan. He was not able to control his anger. After some time he told sorry to her. And does not want to go away to each other and want live together peacefully. I request you to please clear the issue. What is the Shariah ruling if husband says talaq 3 times to wife in very anger and without any preplan or intention?
- My husband and I have been married since last year July. During this time we have had a tumultuous relationship whereby he verbally gave me talaaq on more than three different occasions. We assumed it was said out of anger and no other processes where taken like the 3 month waiting period or witnesses to say we tried reconciling. I am currently 4 months pregnant and we do not wish to be divorced, for the baby’s sake of course and because we wish to have a life together. We have consulted two moulanas and they say our marriage was over with the first talaq given. My question is if the proper process for idaah or that waiting period for reconciliation was not given to us how can our divorce be valid (I do know about the viewpoint that if its said out of anger it is not accepted and we do take how serious the words are, we have both made mistakes). Is there any way forward for us, can he ask for “ruju” because we were not given information on the proper process. We have been together since, but my husband is no longer in the house due to the moulana saying its haram. For our future and the baby is there a way to reconcile? We do not want to be divorced and even after the talaq was verbally said in anger we would reconcile. Please help me with information and a way forward?
- I was in depression as I was separated from my wife. I was on un-prescribed tablets which helps to sleep but at the same time aggravates you into a higher than normal state off anger. If at that time and under those tablets you were given false information by a enemy about your wifes infidelity and you lost control off your anger and phoned your wife issuing her with three taalaaqs at once on the phone not bearing in mind that you are not in your right frame off mind, does the talaaqs count as you was highly popped up that is taken lots off mad tablets and smoked marijuna and other mind altering drugs.